Ricardo and I have been married for a year and a half, it is honestly so crazy to see how fast time flies and how much we’ve been through during this short amount of time.
During this little journey of ours I’ve been asked plenty of questions..
“Do you honestly feel you’ve met ‘the one’ while being so young?”
“What’s it like being married young?”
AND MY FAVORITE… “Did you get married because he joined the military?”
and it goes on and on
So here’s what I have to say about all these questions I’ve been asked..
Is he truly ‘the one’, since you’re young and all?
Well if I didn’t feel as if he was ‘the one’ I promise you guys, I wouldn’t have gotten married. When I date a guy, it isn’t because I don’t see myself being with them for a long time, if I didn’t see Ricardo being a guy who is capable of being a ‘husband’ type then I wouldn’t have married him. Besides that, it doesn’t matter how old you are, when you love someone you love them. Truly, I didn’t even think about my age when Ricardo asked me to marry him, the only thing that popped up in my head was ‘hell yes I want to spend the rest of my life with you!’ Yes, I was pregnant and that was another reason why I wanted to marry Ricardo. Before the pregnancy, Ricardo and I always talked about having a baby and getting married and living together; so we made it happen.
What is it like being married young?
Being married? THE BEST. Being married YOUNG? I don’t see the difference if I was married at an older age, or now. The feelings I have for him wouldn’t ‘change’ five to ten years from now. So, being asked with that ‘young’ word at the end is pretty much pointless. To be honest, I get so happy when I realize that Ricardo and I are in our early 20’s together, because I realize that we have so much life ahead of us to learn and grow together as one. I am so happy that I get to watch him grow, and makes some mistakes along the way that we’ll both learn from. Now is it tough being married while we’re still growing indivually? Heck yes. This journey has have it’s difficulties, but the best part about these difficulties is that when we go through them and GET through them; it makes our marriage stronger. We have a lot to learn, but learning it together is what makes this life easier for the both of us. When life gets ugly, (and sometimes it is REAL ugly) I realize that I am one blessed ‘young’ girl because I will always have him by side reminding me that I will get through this and that I will be OK.
Did you get married because he joined the military?
This question is probably the most annoying ones of them all. Let me tell you one word… No. We were together back when he worked at a golf course, so him being in the military was just another job. Ricardo always had a passion to join the military, and as for me, I was still trying to figure out mine. Being married in the military is so frowned upon, but I’m still trying to understand why. Anyone can get married, divorce, cheat, etc. but why is it that when someone decides to join the military and puts a ring on their woman’s finger, they are apart of this ridiculous trend. If Ricardo decided to not join, or get out I would still be his wife and he would still be my husband. This Military lifestyle will have be a whole other blog, because I could go on and on. Besides all that, I am very blessed that his job helps take care of our family, but if it wasn’t for the foundation of our marriage, the other little human we created, the bond we have built then there wouldn’t have been a such a beautiful marriage between the two of us. I thank god everyday for giving me such a wonderful man, and giving Anaís a wonderful dad.